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When Abusers Use Humiliation as a Weapon
Humiliation is woven through many abusive relationships, influencing both how you experience yourself and how you believe others see you. It chips away at dignity, unsettles your sense of...
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The Lasting Voice of the Abuser: Why It Doesn’t End When You Leave
Abuse extends far beyond what someone says to you or how they behave toward you. It embeds itself in what you eventually begin to...
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How Abusers Use Your Empathy to Keep You Silent: 8 Common Tactics
Empathy is a beautiful quality and is always seen as a strength in relationships. The ability to understand another person’s feelings, to care about...
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How Abusers Use Loyalty Tests to Make You Prove Your Devotion
Loyalty tests are a common feature of coercive and controlling relationships. They often appear as real or hypothetical questions that place you in a...
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The Art of Boundaries: Building the Structure You Need to Thrive
I’m delighted to share this guest piece by Rayann Gordon on the art of rebuilding boundaries after abuse. Rayann is currently completing an MSc...
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False Accusations and Control: How Abuse Turns Innocence Into Guilt
Accusations, especially those that are false or unfounded, are a hallmark of an abusive relationship. That’s mostly because hurling accusations at a partner allows...
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10 Things Abusers Do When They Feel They Are Losing Control
Abusive behaviour grows out of a mindset that treats another person as territory rather than as an equal. Control becomes the organising principle, and...
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10 Subtle Ways Abusers Disguise Control as Care
Control rarely announces itself as control. It usually arrives dressed up as concern, loyalty, sacrifice, and thoughtful attention. A partner might present rules as...
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Family Court Abuse: When Survivors Discover the System Is Not on Their Side
Leaving an abusive relationship is often imagined as the turning point where life finally begins to improve. Many survivors hold onto the hope that...
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Driving as Domination: How Abusers Use Cars to Create Fear and Control
Coercive control is not limited to the home. It follows the victim wherever they go. It shows up in ordinary routines, including something as...
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12 Everyday Phrases Abusers Use That Sound Innocent but Aren’t
Abusive language is not always loud or aggressive. Some of the most harmful communication is delivered calmly, framed as sensible, caring, or even thoughtful....