Rayann Gordon
Rayann Gordon is an educator, writer, ritualist, and cult researcher. She is undertaking an MSc Psychology of Coercive Control program at the University of Salford, UK, and works at the University of Victoria, Canada, as a research assistant on the mental health needs of cult survivors. For the last nine years of providing spiritual care to clients, she has walked alongside people through grief, loss, initiatory experiences, spiritual abuse recovery, deconstruction, and rebuilding relationships with self, place, and ancestors. She draws upon research, client work, and her own lived experience to support people in reclaiming their freedom. You can follow her writing at rayanngordon.substack.com
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How Abusers Use Loyalty Tests to Make You Prove Your Devotion
Loyalty tests are a common feature of coercive and controlling relationships. They often appear as real or hypothetical questions that place you in a...
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Emotional Withholding: When Affection Becomes a Tool of Control
Abusive partners rely on many strategies to maintain power, and emotional withholding is one of the most harmful. It involves deliberately pulling back warmth,...
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The Art of Boundaries: Building the Structure You Need to Thrive
I’m delighted to share this guest piece by Rayann Gordon on the art of rebuilding boundaries after abuse. Rayann is currently completing an MSc...
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False Accusations and Control: How Abuse Turns Innocence Into Guilt
Accusations, especially those that are false or unfounded, are a hallmark of an abusive relationship. That’s mostly because hurling accusations at a partner allows...
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10 Things Abusers Do When They Feel They Are Losing Control
Abusive behaviour grows out of a mindset that treats another person as territory rather than as an equal. Control becomes the organising principle, and...
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When Abuse Rewrites Your Sense of Self: Marcella’s Story
Marcella’s experience of abuse did not begin with violence. It started the way so many abusive relationships do, with small insults, a gradual erosion...
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10 Subtle Ways Abusers Disguise Control as Care
Control rarely announces itself as control. It usually arrives dressed up as concern, loyalty, sacrifice, and thoughtful attention. A partner might present rules as...
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Family Court Abuse: When Survivors Discover the System Is Not on Their Side
Leaving an abusive relationship is often imagined as the turning point where life finally begins to improve. Many survivors hold onto the hope that...
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