Vanessa shares her journey of survival, starting with a childhood shaped by domestic and sexual abuse. She witnessed her mother endure severe physical abuse while being sexually abused by neighbors, who silenced her by threatening her mother’s safety. Vanessa expressed pity for her mother, understanding that she lacked the support to leave. Despite promising herself a different life, Vanessa’s marriage mirrored her mother’s, filled with domestic violence and control.
Determined to make her marriage work for her children, Vanessa stayed with her abusive husband, enduring physical and mental abuse. She describes how her husband manipulated her into believing she couldn’t survive without him, making her feel trapped. The cycle of abuse reached a breaking point during a violent altercation witnessed by her children, after which the physical violence ceased, but emotional abuse worsened. Vanessa struggled with mental health, feeling isolated and powerless, despite seeking therapy and medication.
Her life changed when she found strength and hope through her faith in 1996. Praying for transformation, either in her husband or in her circumstances, Vanessa credits her faith for helping her break free and rebuild a life grounded in safety and joy.
Vanessa describes domestic violence as a “silent atomic bomb” that destroys homes, lives, and souls. She emphasizes that safety and self-worth are essential and encourages anyone experiencing abuse to seek help. Vanessa now dedicates her life to sharing her story, hoping to inspire others to escape and find the support they need.
Featured image: Vanessa’s story of abuse. Source: YouTube Screenshot / MJB Productions: A Woman’s Place.
